🕯 A Place To Be With OTHERS Who Are Grieving! WE support each other.

[Winter2025VA]

THIS GROUP IS OPEN TO ALL GRIEVERS NO MATTER HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN [years,days].

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Luv,

Nicole 💛

[JulieT507376]

Jonibee blessings on your surgery today❤️

Sadie does speak with her eyes. She keeps her eyes on me for sure.  I think her daddy told her to when he was alone with her when he was passing.  I can only imagine his conversation.  She was all he had. 

[MarcyW882921]

My jusband and I shared the same primary care doctor. On the numerous occasions when he was unable to go to medical appointments alone, I went with him. I spent a lot of time in the doctor's office and not under pleasant circumstances. Making an appointment for my own annual exam was one of the most difficult things I did after the passing of my husband. The thought of going to that office and talking with the doctor (as much as I like him) set off a wave of grief and sadness. I knew that making my appointment and going, was necessary as part of my self care. I wanted to keep my doctor so it had to be done. I went to the appointment and yes I cried when I started speaking with the doctor. He totally understood my response and that he was a trigger for me. I'm very grateful for the care he gave to my husband and for the understanding and ongoing care he provides to me. 

Take care of yourself even if it means making some difficult decisions. Think it through and you will come up with a plan that is right for you.

Marcy

[SusanR479241]

Hi Marcy, I too have the same physician as my husband and went to some of my husband's appointments.  The doctor did not accept my insights into my husband's condition. After my husband passed away, I tried to change doctors, but it was in the same clinic, and they wouldn't do it.  My first appointment when the doctor returned from vacation, I told him that I had tried to change to another doctor in the clinic and that I was mad at him.  He was shocked; I could tell by the look on his face. I explained why, he listened and explained.  I have worked through my anger with the doctor and still go to him.  I have never talked to a physician like that before, but I had to and he needed to know.  I understand the frustration when a doctor either doesn't believe you or doesn't understand.