Hi @AARPMichaelP ! Good topic, as at these times of trouble thinking of my own end of time...
I left our home town with my my own family over 40 years ago. Our Mom apologized to me 20 years ago for not being the mom to me she was to younger Sis (not spending enough time with my girls and I, not being there during divorce). I was okay with that because since younger Sis was born when I was 12, that's the way it was; it just took mom longer to realize it.
That was the last real conversation we had. I tried to have an adult relationship with mom; even went to AARP NOLA with her as my guest; sadly, nothing left for us.
For caregiving, I don't believe she'll need much, nor for long. But I think since she dedicated her most recent 20 years to being my sister's assistant, sister's daughter's babysitter, and best friend, my sister should bear the responsibility if our mother ever needs care. I recommended sis take over cell service 15 years ago when mom became primary child care provider; she did not. She will probably not attend to mom's care if ever needed; I cannot as I can barely care for myself monetarily. Sis is remarried and comfortable (again); either she finally recognizes responsibility or mom experiences homelessness as I did, then lost...
Sadly, knowing and loving my sis, I know she will not sacrifice anything for anyone, including our mother...
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Phil Harris, actor and showman, to John Fogerty of CCR: “If I’d known I’d live this long, I’d have taken better care of myself.”