Sex with spouse who has dementia . Is concent there?

[Rbeau17a]

Been married for 50+ years with my spouse, who how has dementia at the stage where her memory is shot, but is physically active and can still do things that she has done routinely like personal care, laundry, some housework… My question is: “is there a point where having loving sex with her should be stopped due to her inability to give consent?” She stills seems to enjoy our encounters, but seems to be more “going through the motions” instead of actively being engaged in the act. Is there a point where we should refrain from sex due to her mental state?

[sr61176326]

My advice is to continue loving her and if she does not want to engage, I am sure you will get a signal. If she can still do her personal care and other activities then as a woman I would say she enjoys the loving contact. Speaking as a woman close to her age. I mean you might be feeling guilty, but please don't. Just continue and enjoy each other while you still can. All my best to you both.

[EricC28201]

That is a real conundrum @Rbeau17a !  Initial intuition is that this is far too intimate and personal a question to be generalized into a 'Standard Answer'.  It must be answered on a case by case basis by those closest to the situation.

....Of coarse in today's overly nosey and litigious climate, it might be prudent to consult a lawyer and see if there are any existing statutes that need to be taken into consideration