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My older brother and I took care of our father after heart valve replacement.  He stopped driving and I started buying the groceries, etc.  My brother took off from work to help Dad during the day.  I was not perfect, but he thanked us for keeping him home.  He had leg infection from scratch and was in hospital for 10 days.  He was packed and ready to go home.  We laughed. I got into argument with my father when going weekend shopping. He wanted things from three grocery stores and I went off and toldhim he was too demanding.  Two stores I said, that's it.  I was doing his laundry and mine all day Saturday - after working the whole week. Plus mine.  I took nap about 4:00 pm when I was caught up.  Having my brother cook all the meals helped tremendously. Sunday was the best day for me. He said my name one time before he passed from bladder cancer, paritial lung collapse at 88 years.  Navy Veteran and he raised five children on his own!!  We were there for him.

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     During my caregiving years with my mother, I wound up pressuring her at times when she was not being cooperative with me. Now that she's gone, I feel bad about this. Please let me know how you have handled this during your own caregiving experience and afterwards. Thank you. The link to my AARP.org column on the subject is below. Take care, Barry Jacobs, co-author of AARP Meditations for Caregivers

 

https://www.aarp.org/caregiving/home-care/info-2019/motivate-without-bullying.html

 

 

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