Hi there
I used to be the social worker at a university chemotherapy clinic, and i was also a social worker at a home hospice team. It sounds like this is the point where you begin to weigh the burden of getting him to treatment and labs etc, and quality of life. Stage 4 lung cancer isn't curable as you know, sadly. Home hospice is an option for sure. Everything centers at your home, and all the palliative care under hospice is brought to you and him.
If you or he do not want to do hospice, then i'd call his primary care provider and the oncologist (probably an RN or a PA who manages his or her practice?) and point all this out. Providers will try to coordinate if you ask; they should do that anyway.
Home hospice will come to you both and talk to you before asking you to sign up. Is that what you mean by having a call into his palliative team?
Say more? And, good luck. This is really hard stuff.
Jane
a social worker now in primary care in a rural clinic