Let me know, do you feel the same? Do you think she went too far? Did she hit the nail on the head? Do you think no one cares about caregivers?
Personally, I don't think this person has what it takes to be the type of family caregiver with this much hands-on requirements. He/She might be better in a supportive or managing roll.
I learned a long time ago that within each of our lives certain responsibilities come up that must be handled. The way we handle each of these responsibilities is up to each of us and that decision has to be based on our abilities and self-feelings to handle such task and if we aren't up to the task at hand, it is better to be left to the experts in the field of the responsibilities.
Would this person feel any better if they had to get an additional job to pay for someone to care for their loved ones - kids and person requiring care most likely.
I choose to take care of my spouse, from beginning to end, course I did have medical training which did make it somewhat easier physically. I choose to do this because he would have done the same for me albeit perhaps in a different way. That does not mean that I didn't get tired sometimes and needed a break to come back replenished.
However, I also made the decision NOT to take on the roll of direct hands-on caregiving to my mother and choose to be on the management side of this responsibility.
Whatever the responsibility that has to be taken care of, we each have choices.
1. We can perform the task ourselves, whether or not we have the skills to handle what is necessary.
2. We can investigate and find other options which may require us to pay for the help and experience which we need, all or some of it.
3. We can just do nothing or walk away.
Each of these decisions has to be based on what you as a person is willing to accept, inside and out.
I apply these choices to any life responsibilities that might come along.
To your last question, Jen, "Do you think no one cares about caregivers?"
If you are talking about family caregivers, I think many care but it is up to that individual to investigate things that could help them. It is up to them to look to their community of friends, church, other relatives, groups, etc. to build a support network for themselves, personally or in hands-on help of some kind.
It's Always Something . . . . Roseanna Roseannadanna