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Alone Caregiver Barely Hanging On

I am soooo tired. I am a 61 year old daughter/primary caregiver for my 81 year old mother who has lung cancer, kidney failure & diabetes. It's been 2 years. I'm alone. No one to talk to. No shoulder to cry on. I am so full. I have diabetes. I suffer from depression, sleep apnea, diabetes and I am bi-polar. 


My mother will NOT accept help from ANYONE else. NO agencies, services, etc. She is too proud and too private.


No one can solve this. I just keep going but it would be nice to sound off or just go someplace and scream!



Demetria Carter
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I know how you feel. I take care of my partner who is in a electric wheel chair. Her medicaid insurance through the state pays me to take care of her at home. A agency called The Whole person takes care of my paychecks which they help a lot. Yes you need to let out your frustration but do it in a creative way, It's tough to take care of loved ones. Hang in there.

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