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Umm, but that's like saying 'Sweetheart, I adore you, can't live without you and the risk of your bad money management.' As for the child, let me echo traveler: the corruption begins.

 

Better to learn wise money management than to be allowed to risk family finances because of poor impulse control. True love doesn't enable.  


Hey, don't "shoot the messenger" .. I'm just reporting what other people have mentioned to me.

 

It may also be why I'm single; once I became an adult & responsible for my own finances, I saw money behavior in other adults that I didn't like. Fine to have people like that as casual friends or activity buddies, but not a serious relationship.


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@Epster - I always thought it was ridiculous, that dating experts tell people not to talk about money, religion or politics, early on, because they're controversial. Duh .. that's the point, if you're looking for a serious relationship; not that topics are "controversial", but that attitudes about them are part of the fiber of our being. Isn't that important in selected a mate?!

 

Look at the battles here in Online Community; would I want to date someone, if I knew their attitudes on those 3 basic things were the exact opposite of mine? NO!!


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@Epster - I know a lot of men from work (power plant), who treated their wives like children, and for all I know, the women might have liked that system. Very gender-based responsibilities, and everything else on a need-to-know basis. But that's how women become widows, and know nothing about family finances, or how to make important decisions, because they've had no education or practice. On the other side, that allows some women to spend as much as they want because "no one told them they had a budget" .. a slightly passive-aggressive response; waiting for their husband to say something or stop them. Eeeew!


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@Epster - I made the point to a friend yesterday, that when people are secure with themselves, they don't fear being open with other people. For example, if someone is smart & self-confident about it, they aren't afraid to ask for help with something, because they know it just means they don't know that one thing .. not that they're dumb. Yet someone lacking self-confidence about their intelligence, may be less likely to ask for help (or accept it graciously), because they think the implication is that they're stupid & can't figure it out for themselves.

 

So when people are self-confident & trust a partner, they're open with each other, and work well as a team. Society often misjudges relationships, only seeing things from the outside. A co-dependent & secretive relationship may look fine, but it's not a mature way to operate, and if they wind up separate it's very hard for them to become whole people individually.


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