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I would'nt have started my Early Learning Child Care. Even though I've been blessed to provide the service to many people in the last 28yrs the up and down income of self-employment has made it hard to set up retirement. The 14hrs 5 days and then even on the weekend there are things that I have to do for work. 

 

Also the way people, banks and now employers have expressed it is "babysitter". I have to correct them I'm a small business owner. Now when changes are coming to state regulations are making it harder to afford to keep going I am finding out how it impacts. It's hard to know where to start looking for new career at 54 and people not seeing all I can provide. Even where to start looking so I don't get phony job postings.

 

I don't regret all the years, because I've seen many successes that children have had and parents who appreciate me for always being there for them. 


I can totally relate to the self-employment point. Also, sacrifice a career to be a stay-at-home parent raising the children and taking care of the household seems like people want to categorize you into a "useless" area. People have no understanding of the commitment and dedicated hard work it is to be self-employeed for many years. Good luck with the career shift at mid-life ages!

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I would'nt have started my Early Learning Child Care. Even though I've been blessed to provide the service to many people in the last 28yrs the up and down income of self-employment has made it hard to set up retirement. The 14hrs 5 days and then even on the weekend there are things that I have to do for work. 

 

Also the way people, banks and now employers have expressed it is "babysitter". I have to correct them I'm a small business owner. Now when changes are coming to state regulations are making it harder to afford to keep going I am finding out how it impacts. It's hard to know where to start looking for new career at 54 and people not seeing all I can provide. Even where to start looking so I don't get phony job postings.

 

I don't regret all the years, because I've seen many successes that children have had and parents who appreciate me for always being there for them. 

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I would do boxers rather than briefs!

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If I had a Do-Over. I would have taken better care of myself. I lost precious time with my 2 boys and husband and dogs. I had 5 major strokes and all most died. My husband was going to take care of me. He ended up passing away on the job of a massive annorism. So thank God I survived and fought my way back. My boys would be without 2 parents. I miss my husband every Day. The only thing that is wrong with me since the strokes is short term memory and I walk a little slower up and down steps. I drive short distances and clean the house and cook and take care of my family as best as I can. I don't work cause of my short term memory. My brother is my power of attorney.. He pays my bills cause I have a hard time doing that. So yes I wish I had a Do-Over.

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I would never let Ambrose be in charge! EVER!!

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A question I've pondered many times in the 45+ years since I've achieved independent sentience.

 

Today, it would be a return to 2015 when she told me she had been experiencing symptoms that could be IBS, could be Krohns, but might be cancer. Colon cancer killed her 3 years later. 

So, I would return to that moment in 2015 and even if I had to hogtie her and drag her kicking and screaming, I'd get her to a doctor for a proper diagnosis and treatment.

Against that, all the prior woulda-coulda-shoulda pipe dreams are pap.

Obligatory note:
If there is a Florida-qualified lawyer who is willing to take a long shot on a medical malpractice lawsuit, against the first of two oncologists (different clinics), pm me at: r pl us k media at gmail - remove the spaces and add the suffix. That quack runs a chemo mill where patients are treated with oxaliplatin but there is no hot water in the patient restrooms - the hot water plumbing is missing under the sink. That's the tip of an iceberg. Even if I receive nothing monetarily, he needs to be kick-banned from the business. I just need an attorney who will take the case.

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Although it was necessary, I would work less when my children were young and growing up,  I missed everything and regret it, now as adults they have nothing to do with me and blame me for missing them growing up, bad scene.

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Pondering the question – what would I do over - I came up with a long list only to realize that for all the peaks and valleys, every one of my experiences has contributed to who I am today. Yes, I wish my husband who died prematurely was still here. We were sailors, hikers, bikers, kayakers and more. One of my greatest accomplishments was being a mom to two really great kids (ages 48 and 49) who are successful and happy in their lives. Being present at the birth of my only grandchild was a blessing. The doctor handed him to me and I immediately sang his first lullaby. He’s 27 now and we’re still “besties.”

 

Through hard work and determination, I earned academic degrees (all in night school) in business, economics and counseling education, although I’ve thought several times throughout my life that I wish I had gone to nursing school. In small ways, I have satisfied my passion to help others as a Red Cross volunteer and by donating time and energy to local hospitals and long term care facilities. I also provide pro bono academic tutoring for all ages. In my spare time, I work with new authors to get their books published and on bookshelves everywhere.

 

So, this almost 74 year old has no regrets. There’s nothing I’d do over. I am content to just keep going -- doing more --  and for a long time to come.

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I definitely would not have married my 2nd husband - so wrong on so many levels!  Smiley Wink

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Mulligans can result in a false sense of achievement...Rather than focusing on DO-OVER, I'd rather focus on no DO-AGAIN...

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