https://community.aarp.org/t5/Caregiving/Caregiver-burnout-help/m-p/2535302#M8095 <P>Hi, I'm a caregiver to my 75 year old mother.&nbsp; She is not at end of life stage, but she has decided she only wants to participate in certain aspects of her life.&nbsp; Because I recently moved in with her (last August), things she would normally do on her own, she has since decided can mine to worry about now.&nbsp; She does not bathe regularly enough although she is physically capable of doing so. Recently her car died and we decided it was best for her to not replace it.&nbsp; There are other family members in town, but she has decided to schedule all of her events and appointments for after i get off work or during my weekends.&nbsp; I'm mentally and physically exhausted and it's affecting my own mental health.&nbsp; She also (just this week) gave all of her financial information to a scammer and i've been closing accouts, helping her open new ones, changing passwords and taking her all over town to change account information for various payments (utilities, retirement accounts, etc).&nbsp; I am her POA.&nbsp; We'd had extensive conversations about these types of scams and she still allowed herself to be victimized by fraud.&nbsp; I'm frustrated and finding through research that I'm experiencing caregiver burnout. She is also a hoarder and for about a year and a half before i moved in with her, I had to go through mountains of boxes and dirt to make room for me to move in as well as make it a healthy and safe environment for her to live in.&nbsp; Contacting plumber to get issues fixed and finally finding a housekeeper to come once a month for deep cleaning that i am unable to do my self (I've recently also had my lumbar spine fused and can only do so much physically).&nbsp; Are there resources out there such as community support group meetings or someone i can connect with to just talk sometimes?&nbsp; I feel so much guilt for feeling this way, but it's affecting my own quality of life too.&nbsp; I appreciate any advice.</P> Fri, 19 Jan 2024 15:19:52 GMT NaomiM13392 2024-01-19T15:19:52Z https://community.aarp.org/t5/Caregiving/Caregiver-burnout-help/m-p/2535302#M8095 <P>Hi, I'm a caregiver to my 75 year old mother.&nbsp; She is not at end of life stage, but she has decided she only wants to participate in certain aspects of her life.&nbsp; Because I recently moved in with her (last August), things she would normally do on her own, she has since decided can mine to worry about now.&nbsp; She does not bathe regularly enough although she is physically capable of doing so. Recently her car died and we decided it was best for her to not replace it.&nbsp; There are other family members in town, but she has decided to schedule all of her events and appointments for after i get off work or during my weekends.&nbsp; I'm mentally and physically exhausted and it's affecting my own mental health.&nbsp; She also (just this week) gave all of her financial information to a scammer and i've been closing accouts, helping her open new ones, changing passwords and taking her all over town to change account information for various payments (utilities, retirement accounts, etc).&nbsp; I am her POA.&nbsp; We'd had extensive conversations about these types of scams and she still allowed herself to be victimized by fraud.&nbsp; I'm frustrated and finding through research that I'm experiencing caregiver burnout. She is also a hoarder and for about a year and a half before i moved in with her, I had to go through mountains of boxes and dirt to make room for me to move in as well as make it a healthy and safe environment for her to live in.&nbsp; Contacting plumber to get issues fixed and finally finding a housekeeper to come once a month for deep cleaning that i am unable to do my self (I've recently also had my lumbar spine fused and can only do so much physically).&nbsp; Are there resources out there such as community support group meetings or someone i can connect with to just talk sometimes?&nbsp; I feel so much guilt for feeling this way, but it's affecting my own quality of life too.&nbsp; I appreciate any advice.</P> Fri, 19 Jan 2024 15:19:52 GMT https://community.aarp.org/t5/Caregiving/Caregiver-burnout-help/m-p/2535302#M8095 NaomiM13392 2024-01-19T15:19:52Z https://community.aarp.org/t5/Caregiving/Caregiver-burnout-help/m-p/2536972#M8096 <P>I completely understand how you feel; have been there.&nbsp; Courage to Caregivers may be a great resource for you...It's all about putting on your oxygen mask first (taking care of you, the caregiver) so that you can best care for your loved one.&nbsp; Courage to Caregivers (<A href="https://www.couragetocaregivers.org/" target="_blank">https://www.couragetocaregivers.org/</A>) has coaching/support groups, peer support and breathing meditation classes...All virtual so easy for you to access.&nbsp; You may want to check them out!!!</P> Wed, 31 Jan 2024 17:07:33 GMT https://community.aarp.org/t5/Caregiving/Caregiver-burnout-help/m-p/2536972#M8096 MaryA722078 2024-01-31T17:07:33Z