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Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 19:13:35 GMT

10 years ago my mom had a heart attack and I started taking care of her. It's been an up and down path. 6 years ago we moved where we're at now hoping to be closer to family. 4 years ago her kidneys start to fail. She had to start doing dialysis. On June 8th 2025 you passed away. For the last 6 years I haven't worked I've just been taking care of her. Now I have nothing except our cats. I'm going to end up homeless losing everything. By dealing with my own mental health I'm 50 years old. I got three older brothers but they've never helped now that she's gone they just ignoring me. I feel so lost. She wasn't just my mom she was my best friend. She leaned on me and I leaned on her. now I don't know how to go forward.

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 22:26:29 GMT

I'm saying a counselor and a job counselor to try to find something but times already run out. And I only have one friend and he can't help me. Just going to come down to the fact that I'm going to get evicted and me and my cats will be evicted and homeless. Kind of hard to get work when you're dealing with depression anxiety panic attacks PTSD I'm trying to get my disability but I've been denied three times already it takes time to appeal again.

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 22:57:56 GMT

Stephen @Stephen74Utah , does your counselor know you are going to be evicted? Maybe they may be able to "refer" you for help with this. Emergency Shelter is what it is called in my state.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Re: Lost my mom

JaneCares — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 23:41:23 GMT

Hey StephenM! SpringIsHere has great ideas. You are in a raw, scared place, and I'm so sorry all of this is happening to you. Depression tells lies: it tells you that there's no hope, no pathway out. What i know, also, is that you are grieving: even if you had plenty of money and friends, you'd be suffering the loss of your beloved mother very deeply. I'm glad you have a counselor. Is he or she part of an agency? Ask if they offer peer support, and/or case management, to help with applications for aid, while you're looking for work. Disability from Social Security is tougher than ever to get now, and I hope you can look for work even while you're appealing the denial. Your mother loved you SO MUCH, and wants you to survive and thrive. 50 is young! So much energy still to enjoy and move forward. It is totally okay and normal to crawl into a ball with your cats for a chunk of time each day. And then, you can move around the place, see if there's anything needs doing. If you don't go to a church now but you're comfortable with the idea of going, consider joining one, as often they are very supportive places, and you'd meet people. One idea. Keep posting here. We'll brain storm with you. Hang in there!

Jane

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Mon, 30 Jun 2025 23:56:41 GMT

Yeah the counselor knows we've already signed up for section 8 and for emergency housing assistance but until I received the eviction notice they said they really can't help a whole lot. I'm still trying to see if I can also find work. But I'm also dealing with being sick for the last week I haven't recovered from that either.

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 00:03:08 GMT

Stephen @Stephen74Utah , have you been able to see a doctor? I hope so! NOT feeling well while grieving & worrying is awful. I hope you feel better soon. Just so you know I have a cat by the name of Mister. Furbabies KNOW when we need some luv. Luv on yours Stephen, they are also missing your mom.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 01:47:26 GMT

I have two ones name is Goldie and the other's name is bandit they're my babies and my support animals.

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SummerOnTheWay1 — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 02:04:24 GMT

Stephen @Stephen74Utah they NEED YOU = your reason to carry on my friend. Lol, Mister does NOT care how busy I am - he DEMANDS his "cuddle" sessions.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sat, 04 Apr 2026 13:26:05 GMT

Good Morning Stephen!!!

How are YOU doing dear friend?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

@Stephen74Utah

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 19:51:03 GMT

I'm doing okay today still dealing with being sick. It's getting better. I think I gave the fur babies too much love. They're both completely zonked out. Still no one in my family is talking to me like I did something wrong or something. 10 years of taking care of my mom with no one helping me or no one offering to help. And now they just totally ignore exist. That's one of the hardest things.

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Tue, 01 Jul 2025 19:59:47 GMT

Stephen @Stephen74Utah , how often are you meeting with your Counselors? With your illness, have you seen your doctor?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Wed, 02 Jul 2025 02:19:35 GMT

Right now I'm seeing the counselor once a week. I need to make an appointment to see my doctor. It's been a few months. I have to do my yearly anyways.

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Wed, 02 Jul 2025 02:30:07 GMT

Stephen @Stephen74Utah , any plans for July 4th?

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Thu, 03 Jul 2025 03:27:57 GMT

I was invited on my nephew and his wife for a barbecue. I'm going to go because it'll get me out of the apartment.

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SummerOnTheWay1 — Thu, 03 Jul 2025 04:23:22 GMT

I am glad they invited you Stephen @Stephen74Utah & you are going!!!

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sat, 04 Apr 2026 13:27:20 GMT

Stephen, WE hope you will stop by to see us AGAIN.

Grief & Loss Team 💛

@Stephen74Utah

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 20:29:14 GMT

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 20:38:24 GMT

The grief is still bad. Still no support from 95% of my family. Still facing eviction. My anxieties, panic attacks, PTSD, and depression are still very bad. Just me and my support cats. My counselor does know all of this. The sickness I had was was just allergy cold.

Re: Lost my mom

SummerOnTheWay1 — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 20:45:57 GMT

Stephen @Stephen74Utah , I was hoping you had found a "safe" place to stay dear friend. 😞

Hmmm, NO pressure to reply, but wondering why you have NOT told your counselor?

I had my 1st session with my Counselor. NOT dealing well with getting old at age 67.

SO GLAD, it is an allergy!!!

Try to enjoy the 5% Family Support. Glad you have a few supporters.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

@Stephen74Utah wrote:
The grief is still bad. Still no support from 95% of my family. Still facing eviction. My anxieties, panic attacks, PTSD, and depression are still very bad. Just me and my support cats. My counselor does know all of this. The sickness I had was was just allergy cold.

Re: Lost my mom

Stephen74Utah — Mon, 04 Aug 2025 21:18:01 GMT

The counselor does know everything.