topic Re: Help with grief in Grief & Loss

Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Sat, 26 Apr 2025 03:02:17 GMT

I lost my husband of 55 years April 2nd. I’m lost, he was my everything. We did everything together.

We have two great adult kids, 3 beautiful granddaughters and a 9 month old great grandson.

They have their lives, which is what we always wanted,…

I just need someone to chat with. Tell them how wonderful he is,…share memories,…

‘Help me maybe get through another day without him…

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Tue, 20 May 2025 00:48:34 GMT

Theresa @TheresaF849375 , I am SO SORRY for your loss dear friend!!! ‌😭‌

I am HERE - talk to me. ‌💛‌

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** THERESA wrote: I lost my husband of 55 years April 2nd. I’m lost, he was my everything. We did everything together.

We have two great adult kids, 3 beautiful granddaughters and a 9 month old great grandson.

They have their lives, which is what we always wanted,…

I just need someone to chat with. Tell them how wonderful he is,…share memories,…

‘Help me maybe get through another day without him… ***]

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Sat, 26 Apr 2025 23:47:17 GMT

Thank you, it just seems that people will read the postings, but no one really wants to chat. Thank you tho,…it does mean a lot to me. 💔

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 00:14:03 GMT

You are welcome Theresa @TheresaF849375 !!! 💛

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** Theresa wrote: Thank you, it just seems that people will read the postings, but no one really wants to chat. Thank you tho,…it does mean a lot to me. 💔 ***]

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 03:15:15 GMT

Has it been a long time since you lost your spouse?

I don’t want my kids to worry, they are so loving, and I know they are grieving too,…

I just took care of everything that I could, I was Dans caregiver, but it was just the last month that I know it was so very difficult for him to have me taking care of his every need. It hurts me now to think that I may of hurt him, as far as the love we shared, for me to take care of his personal needs. I don’t think I’m explaining it correctly,…I just am dealing with so very much, and I miss him beyond words…Thank you for letting me ramble on, maybe I’ll eventually make sense to myself too. Theresa

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 03:40:32 GMT

Theresa @TheresaF849375 , he died from complications with COVID and went quickly.

YOU ARE FINE dear friend and "ramble" all you want to!!! 💛

Remember, THEY ARE ALWAYS with us.

Luv,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗 (Grief Forum)

➡️[*** Theresa wrote: Has it been a long time since you lost your spouse?
I don’t want my kids to worry, they are so loving, and I know they are grieving too,…
I just took care of everything that I could, I was Dans caregiver, but it was just the last month that I know it was so very difficult for him to have me taking care of his every need. It hurts me now to think that I may of hurt him, as far as the love we shared, for me to take care of his personal needs. I don’t think I’m explaining it correctly,…I just am dealing with so very much, and I miss him beyond words…Thank you for letting me ramble on, maybe I’ll eventually make sense to myself too. Theresa ***]

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 18:08:33 GMT

Theresa @TheresaF849375 , how are you today? 💛

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 19:17:56 GMT

Sunshine here,…cool, but still nice. Want to fib and say ok,…how are you my friend?

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 27 Apr 2025 19:33:01 GMT

Lol Theresa @TheresaF849375 , too funny!!!

Me, feeling sorry for myself. The flu got me yesterday and NOT happy about it. 🙄

All WE can do is "keep" stepping my friend!!! 💛

➡️[*** Theresa wrote: Sunshine here,…cool, but still nice. Want to fib and say ok,…how are you my friend? ***]

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 00:31:43 GMT

😴 Theresa @TheresaF849375 , I hope you get some sleep tonight my friend.

Some nights I am up ALL NIGHT!!!

Any plans for tomorrow?

Me, a 6am alarm to go see IF my mechanic will check my 2006 Hyundai Elantra "check engine light" CODE when they open at 7am. Lol, this light has kept me broke of late.

Anyway, I am ALWAYS here IF you need me. 💛

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 02:37:15 GMT

Hi, just sitting here in Dans recliner. I decided I like sitting in his, vs mine.

The day was nice, but they seem so long.
I, like you, don’t sleep well, so when I finally fall asleep, which is early morning., I try to stay in bed. As long as I can.

I’m not sure what I’ll do tomorrow.

I do have a few small boxes of things I’d like to donate to the men’s shelter. It’s things that over the winter Dan would sit and tell he keep or donate. He’d lost a lot of weight, and some of the things he just didn’t want to wear anymore.

I haven’t touched any of his clothes that he wore day to day. Just can’t do that.

well, I hope you have good luck with your car,….things like that are hard for us to deal with, use to the guys doing certain things.

Hope you have a good night 😴…rest…..how’s your daughter and kitty?????💔

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 03:02:03 GMT

You are doing GREAT Theresa @TheresaF849375 !!! 👍

Thanks for asking - daughter called to check on me. Miss her SO MUCH. 😭

Lol, Mister 🐈 hung out ALL DAY with me napping beside me, then dumped me tonight. I inherited him LAST May when the lady who was feeding him moved away. His humans had moved without him. 😤 He is an indoor/outdoor cat determined to do this HIS WAY. I had gone to the dumpster and mailbox tonight & he walked by me like he didnot know me. He is a trip!!! But GRATEFUL he came into my life.

Thanks, I am hoping it is something simple and they will be nice and fix it tomorrow. Light came on Saturday, then flu = lol, felt like WHAT NEXT???

I am here for you. 💛

➡️[*** Theresa wrote: Hi, just sitting here in Dans recliner. I decided I like sitting in his, vs mine.
The day was nice, but they seem so long.
I, like you, don’t sleep well, so when I finally fall asleep, which is early morning., I try to stay in bed. As long as I can.
I’m not sure what I’ll do tomorrow.
I do have a few small boxes of things I’d like to donate to the men’s shelter. It’s things that over the winter Dan would sit and tell he keep or donate. He’d lost a lot of weight, and some of the things he just didn’t want to wear anymore.
I haven’t touched any of his clothes that he wore day to day. Just can’t do that.
well, I hope you have good luck with your car,….things like that are hard for us to deal with, use to the guys doing certain things.
Hope you have a good night 😴…rest…..how’s your daughter and kitty?????💔 ***]

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 22:23:44 GMT

Theresa @TheresaF849375 , how are YOU today/tonight? 💛

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 22:41:19 GMT

Did you find out about your car? Hope it was an easy fix, but sure weighs heavy on us for unexpected cost.

I took some cat food over to a lady that feeds feral cats. She doesn’t have much herself, so I try to help. I’m trying to get another friend to help trap them, at least get them fixed, to stop reproducing, and vaccinate them. I told her I’d help with some of the cost, so it’ll give my heart some joy.

its beautiful here today, I went outside for a bit, but really wanted to be inside. I’m in Michigan, so it’s spring, and pretty.

you have a good evening. I’m kinda hungry, but don’t know what I’d like. Thank you my friend….you have been so very good to my broken heart…

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Mon, 28 Apr 2025 23:00:44 GMT

Mister 🐈 is a TNR (trap, neuter, release). I learn't this from a wonderful lady in a forum here that I exited from. Ms. Stretch @MsStretch had seen his EAR had been "nipped" off at end (I had posted a picture of my very handsome boy) = shows they have been fixed. 👍 She feeds two ferals, Willie Mae (mom 🐈) and her son Giorgio 🐈. I miss chatting with her, but that forum became toxic due to a member who feels he owns it and not AARP. Lol, learning to avoid toxic folks to maintain my sanity. Thank you for caring about ferals. 👍

Well, I have a 8am Car Appt on Wednesday and trying NOT to "worry". I am in Virginia in a very CUTE Studio Apt while I work on returning to Florida to be nearer to my only child/daughter. We BOTH had moved from Florida in 2015. But she HATED Virginia and returned in 2017. I fell in luv with the mountains, Spring & Autumn. Lol, they can keep Summer & Winter. Too hot & too cold. I am SO GRATEFUL the car made it up my hill this morning. 🙃

Thanks for CARING & yell whenever you need me dear friend.

SO PROUD OF YOU!!! 💛

And still feeling sorry for myself with flu. Been years since I got it as I get my yearly shot at age 67. Glad I am retired = been in bed ALL DAY. 🙄

➡️[*** Theresa wrote Monday 4/28/25: Did you find out about your car? Hope it was an easy fix, but sure weighs heavy on us for unexpected cost.
I took some cat food over to a lady that feeds feral cats. She doesn’t have much herself, so I try to help. I’m trying to get another friend to help trap them, at least get them fixed, to stop reproducing, and vaccinate them. I told her I’d help with some of the cost, so it’ll give my heart some joy.
its beautiful here today, I went outside for a bit, but really wanted to be inside. I’m in Michigan, so it’s spring, and pretty.
you have a good evening. I’m kinda hungry, but don’t know what I’d like. Thank you my friend….you have been so very good to my broken heart… ***]

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:11:24 GMT

well, that dang flu. I’ve had a cold/cough for over a week, just doing OTC, and then today my 98 FIL called today and asked me if I had cold medicine. He lives next door, and we, I have been his caregiver for the last 6+years….in addition to being here for Danne…who I wanted to and loved being with…

‘what part of Florida are you from? I was born in Plant City,…

well, guess I’ll go find a snack…I have a cat, 13 years old, a rescue too, named Circus,…and a dog 19 months old, a golden retriever, named Dalton…after Dalton Georgia, because when we’d come home from FL, we’d stop for the night in Dalton. Memories,…huh….💔💕🌸🐈⭐️🌼

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:34:35 GMT

Melbourne, Florida. That is where my daughter was born 38 years ago and where I had met her father. His parents still live there. She didnot want to move back to Melbourne (too close to them and their drama) but HarrisL3 had hired her = giving her a chance to return to Florida.

Well, just took my NIGHT dose of Flu Medicine and hope it unclogs both of my noses. Lol, geez - that LAST hour before my 6 hours between doses, it was like, will I make it./lol 🤣😂

I will check on you tomorrow.

Luv to the furbabies - you have quite FAMILY!!! 💛

➡️[*** Theresa wrote: Well, that dang flu. I’ve had a cold/cough for over a week, just doing OTC, and then today my 98 FIL called today and asked me if I had cold medicine. He lives next door, and we, I have been his caregiver for the last 6+years….in addition to being here for Danne…who I wanted to and loved being with…
‘what part of Florida are you from? I was born in Plant City,…
well, guess I’ll go find a snack…I have a cat, 13 years old, a rescue too, named Circus,…and a dog 19 months old, a golden retriever, named Dalton…after Dalton Georgia, because when we’d come home from FL, we’d stop for the night in Dalton. Memories,…huh….💔💕🌸🐈⭐️🌼 ***]

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:42:55 GMT

Sleep well…..Thank you for helping me….this is dalton

Re: Help with grief

SummerOnTheWay1 — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 02:51:45 GMT

He is SO ADORABLE Theresa @TheresaF849375 !!! You are welcome dear friend. 💛 Thank you and the same for you. 😴

➡️[*** Theresa wrote: Sleep well…..Thank you for helping me….this is dalton[Picture Attached of CUTE Dalton 🐕]

Re: Help with grief

TheresaF849375 — Tue, 29 Apr 2025 06:24:42 GMT

Darn,..went to bed,…I did fall asleep,…I know I did, now up, wide awake.

Did you start dreaming again, after you lost your husband? I have had a couple dreams, but I can’t seem to remember them, I’ll try to dig into my memory, but nothing.

I so want to dream of Dan, just to see him, and to maybe hear him,…I hope you are resting and dreaming sweet dreams of your husband,…

will chat more tomorrow, or today, just at a more reasonable time😴🙂💔🌸