topic Re: Not my first time grieving in Grief & Loss

Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 20:41:48 GMT

I was hoping that having been though this before, I would have an easier time of it this time, but apparently this looks just like the last time. I'm walking around in a fog.

So I just have to be kind to myself. Take plenty of walks (sunshine helps). Eat healthy (I lost 20 lbs while caretaking) Sleep if I can when I can.

And find support... here I am.

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:18:24 GMT

📎 Hi Diane @DianeB887812 , SO GLAD you stopped by to see us dear friend. What type of support are you seeking? Some of us chat here each day. Some seek out counseling. While others stay super busy so as not to think. I am ALWAYS here for you. Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[*** DIANE wrote: I was hoping that having been though this before, I would have an easier time of it this time, but apparently this looks just like the last time. I'm walking around in a fog.

So I just have to be kind to myself. Take plenty of walks (sunshine helps). Eat healthy (I lost 20 lbs while caretaking) Sleep if I can when I can.

And find support... here I am. ***]

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:18:03 GMT

📎 1 step at a time 🤗🤗🤗

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 21:51:14 GMT

Just looking for a forum where I can share my day to day recovery. I had found one the first time around and it was very helpful, but that forum is no longer active.

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Fri, 05 Jul 2024 22:00:49 GMT

OK TEAM!

That was alot for me to just skim for now.. Information overload happens easily right now... BUT I will revisit this post to find interesting things to try. Thank you ALL for all this information..

Re: Not my first time grieving

mc6844 — Sat, 06 Jul 2024 06:08:29 GMT

That is so nice!

Re: Not my first time grieving

mc6844 — Sat, 06 Jul 2024 06:13:47 GMT

Diane, you'll find kind supportive people here that can offer support and suggestions for grief and loss, and daily life. There's no drama just like Nicole says.

Re: Not my first time grieving

SamM982312 — Sat, 06 Jul 2024 19:34:51 GMT

Sorry to hear you’re dealing with this again. I’ve been through a similar experience, and it’s tough each time. I found that taking walks and soaking up some sunshine helped me a lot. Also, don’t hesitate to reach out for support—sometimes just talking to someone can make a big difference. Take care of yourself and be patient with the process.

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:17:47 GMT

📎 SWEET dreams Diane @DianeB887812 🤗🤗🤗

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Mon, 15 Jul 2024 22:36:39 GMT

You too @SummerOnTheWay1

Hugs to ya.

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Fri, 19 Jul 2024 02:44:46 GMT

I did catch a nap but just now had wake up to go empty the bladder. Maybe the 3am wake-up call will not happen tomorrow. You have a restful night. Hugs.

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:17:33 GMT

📎 Good Morning dear Diane @DianeB887812 , ENJOY your walk this morning!!! 🤗🤗🤗

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Fri, 19 Jul 2024 11:04:05 GMT

How about that. I slept in until 6am today. I need to do another round of bladder training. That’s where I sit on the potty every 2 hours and drink a small glass of water afterwards. It trains my body to not wake me up at 3 in the morning.

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:17:20 GMT

📎 1 step at a time 🤗🤗🤗

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Sat, 20 Jul 2024 15:48:31 GMT

I went to the dog park again today. No rain so more of my old friends there today. I will be invited to their weekly lunches. They are a fun group of people and their dogs are very friendly. This is something I will be doing more of. They don’t care that I do not have a dog right now. Isn’t that nice.

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:16:44 GMT

📎 AN UPDATE: IT IS A CHIPMUNK AND WE BOTH SCARED EACH OTHER WHEN I WENT IN TO EMPTY CONTAINER. EVEN WORE MY SNAKE SHOES (OUTSIDE SHOES) INSTEAD OF SANDALS I WEAR INSIDE. IN CASE HE RAN OVER MY TOES. GOSH, NOW TO HOPE HE/SHE USES THE ESCAPE PATH I HAVE SET UP.

Lol, let me post this NOW as one NEVER knows these days when one will FALL ASLEEP and as you know I am famous for nodding off.

Girl, I am now RECOVERED but earlier, guess what my little angel brought through my door.

Now I have seen this on TV and Ms. Geraldine (the lady that seems to have moved, reason I now feed him) had said that he better NOT do this.

He came in with a baby squirrel in his mouth which ESCAPED and ran into my utility room. 😱😱😱

Poor baby!!! 😭😭😭

I TRIED to kind of look around for it with my flashlight and even used a stool to reach the light bulb to turn on. Yes, the switch does NOT work.

I am hoping he/she gets back outside. Trying NOT to shut door until as long as possible. Front door is beside utility room.

Here I was watching the French version of Agatha Christie small murders on my android, feet up.

I YELLED at him. Was so upset.

Anyway, I guess that was his GIFT to me.

Speaking of KIND folks.

One of my neighbors just stopped by and asked IF we could exchange phone numbers. She is like a daughter to me. AJ, her 6 year old son, my grandson.

Okay, I think I have worn out your ears enough. 🙄🙄🙄

Hope you had a PEACEFUL day after the dog park and get some rest tonight.

I actually slept last night and GRATEFUL.

Still missing my daughter in Florida but TRUSTING life will work things out so we can BOTH be settled somewhere and near each other.

Life TOOK AWAY yesterday.

Life REPLACED today.

Luv you,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

@DianeB887812

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Sat, 20 Jul 2024 23:26:55 GMT

My goodness that was exciting. Around here the gifts from cats to owners tends to be lizards. We have tones of baby iguanas.

On another note I’ve looked around in my account and do not see anything about private messaging. It may be because I have not joined AARP. Is that going to be a problem?

Re: Not my first time grieving

SummerOnTheWay1 — Sun, 22 Mar 2026 01:17:03 GMT

📎 Lol, I am NOT a member either. I am NOT sure how PMs get set up. Mine was like yours = no PM setup until the AARP Moderator @Underbat sent me a PM. Lol, maybe we can ask him to send you one. No, NOT an issue. Hmmm, let me see IF I can say what you need to know in code so I do not get in trouble with AARP. 😉😉😉 I will only be chatting in your thread. I cannot post why but hopefully you have visited where I use to chat and read the last thing that was posted.

Luv you my friend,

Nicole 🤗🤗🤗

[*** DIANE wrote: My goodness that was exciting. Around here the gifts from cats to owners tends to be lizards. We have tones of baby iguanas.

On another note I’ve looked around in my account and do not see anything about private messaging. It may be because I have not joined AARP. Is that going to be a problem? ***]

Re: Not my first time grieving

GailL1 — Sun, 21 Jul 2024 00:42:45 GMT

@DianeB887812

It might be that you just don’t have the private messaging turn on - I don’t know what the techs use as the default.

To see what is turned on in your profile or to change it -

Go to “My Settings”, then to “Preferences”. - from the list of preferences - the last one in line is the “Private Messaging”. - Go there and then see what is check as your PM option - it it is not on - just turn it on -

Then don’t forget to SAVE your setting (at the bottom). Then you should see a little envelope at the top of the page, around your name, that’s the PM icon. Only shows when you are signed in.

Re: Not my first time grieving

DianeB887812 — Sun, 21 Jul 2024 05:13:48 GMT

Well it looks like I have managed to muck up my profile somehow. When I go to my settings the page does not completely load. I’m a bit tired right now. I’ll try again tomorrow when I’m fresh and can think better.