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02-24-2015 01:58 PM
"They could be Transient Ischemic Attack (TIA) - which are like mini-strokes but even these will cause some damage. "
Gail, please re-consider changing that verb from "will" cause to "may" cause.
My doc reluctantly admitted to me 4 years ago - when I pressed - she thinks I had a mild TIA on the eve of checking into hospital (for something totally unrelated to CVA, pelvic surgery)
When I reported the symptoms (leaning to one side, unable to straighten up, then grey/black curtain coming down over one eye, leaving me blind for a few minutes in that eye) she concurred it was probably stroke.
However, after the episode was over, I did not feel I suffered damage in any way, everything, including eyesight, balance, returned to normal. Nor could any of the doctors later at the hospital detect any damage from this suspected TIA.
So I don't believe one can make a blanket statement that TIA-type mini-strokes will cause "some" damage always.
02-23-2015 09:12 PM - edited 02-23-2015 09:14 PM
@ mf70661080 - reply to your 2/23/2015 post
CVA or "cerebral vascular accident" is really just another name for a stoke. All stokes do some damage but where they are located in the brain determines what effects they may have on the person.
They could be Transient Ischemic Attack (TIA) - which are like mini-strokes but even these will cause some damage.
It sounds to me that he could be having more with the weakness in his legs.
He really needs to have those neurological studies done - probably with a brain scan. Only that way you will know how much damage there is and what might be expected for the short and long term and can make any plans that you have to make for the level of care he might need.
Hang in there and hopefully you will know something soon. If he has a male friend or a son / nephew close by, maybe you could ask them to spend a bit of time with him just so you can get out a bit, weather permitting.
Here is an article on Strokes - symptoms and types from WEBMD
read especially the SYMPTOMS of A Stroke
02-23-2015 08:44 PM
Day after he got home he started having leg weakness and now needs a walker and that is not safe. He can barely feed himself , doesn't want to eat and looks at me blankly frequently. It takes lots of instruction to just get out of his chair etc, etc!!
Sometimes he seems like his old self( especially when Drs ask questions and if friends visit. Other times he has no clue We don't have a diagnosis ...this was sudden and I am already so stressed I don't know what to do! Haven't had neuro follow up due to inclement weather. ....maybe tomorrow! I hope!!!! Does anyone know if this is dementia or Alzheimer's or from a stroke?
I am lost. Friends offer help but they can't really . I can't leave someone who needs help to urinate or just get out of chair safely ,,!!!!!
07-15-2014 11:14 AM
Yes I have been taking care of my wife now for the past three years. My friends no longer call or come by because they know I can't go anywhere .My wife has heart diease and needs both a hip and knee replacement. My stepchildren are useless .They won't come by and pick their mother up for a few hours to give me a break. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed, but i promise her the day we were married 24 years ago that as long as I was able I would never put her in a nursing home.
07-13-2014 10:42 AM
I am taking care of my hubby of 40 years. He has Hepatic Encelapathy, he's in end stage liver failure. He has been a heavy beer drinker for 35 years. He's always been pretty self centered (to say the least), but now, it's all about HIM. The disease is slowly but surely killing him, at this point, I'm not sure if it's going to take me first. .
His b/p is dropping, to the point it has gotten so low he's gone into acute renal failure, twice. Hospice has become my lifesaver. An aide comes out 3 times a week to help bathe him. He had refused to bathe for over 2-3 weeks at a time, the aide coming put him on a regular schedule. Our Hospice nurse comes out 3 times a week, (look at me, I've claimed his nurse as ours), Hospice has been a life saver!!! I cannot stress just how much of a difference they have made, all to the good.
He gets "confused" (read crazy as a loon) He was driving, I literally had heart attacks every time he would stagger to the car or truck. They along with our family physician and a friendly local police officer, put a stop to that. He was falling constantly, my son had had to put his own life on hold to come live with us, just to help me, he was picking hubby up out of the floor, off the deck, off the ground, many times a week. The peeps helped get himto using a rolling walkalator. And helped to get his meds adjusted to help with the balance. My son was able to move back out, but he comes by 3-6 times a week. I am just so thankful I have my son!! He is my hero, my rock, he is the one who has to listen to me vent, too. He has wide shoulders, at times he needs them.
He has realized he is dying. He checks his b/p 10-12 times a day, he checks his o2 about the same. Hospice also got him a o2 concentrator. Some weeks I can run to town, pay bills, buy groceries, etc. Others, I have to get my son to come hubby sit. The last 2 weeks, he has been more stable than in months, physically. Mentally, he has been more clear of thought, in the last few days.
My hubby, teen age sweetheart, love of my life, has done a 360*, the sweet wonderful man is now a mean selfish monster, I keep telling myself it's the brain damage, but you can only lie to yourself for so long. He is a control freak that has lost control. I see him checking his bp, heart rate, etc and I realize he is scared of dying, yet, he does nothing to ease his fears, his, I'm sure, horrors. I caught myself remarking to him, after he had said something so hurtful,. . "If I was as scared of dying as you are, I wouldn't be picking fights with God."
Do any of you have any advice, any helpful hints? I'm so tired physically, and mentally that I'm not sure I'm going to make it. And yes, I know I have no choice except to make it.
07-12-2014 03:08 PM
Hi - I take care of my husband who has vascular dementia and a myriad of other health issues which include heart, diabetes, and on and on. I have been caring for him for 8 yrs. I am glad I had read about this group in a recent AARP. Like many of you I too feel alone in doing my caregiving as many people have faded out of our lives. People mean well but the thought of following through is another thing. Our sons live out of state and friends have retired and are not nearby. I work full time during the school year which is belief it or not a respite. I am currently able to leave my husband home alone since he has mild cognitive problems but keep my cell phone on me at all times in case he needs me. Since I have been out of school being here full time is hardest and since I do it all. I am glad to have found a place to find tools to cope with my new life.
07-03-2014 05:19 PM
07-03-2014 05:15 PM
I'm in the same boat. Hubby had Parkinson's diagnosed about 6-7 years ago. Four years ago he had a "widow-maker" heart attack. That affected his short term memory. Between PD and the heart attack he lost the ability to figure out how to move his body so most of the day he can't figure out how to get out of a chair. He can't get in and out of bed by himself so I'm always lifting him - he goes to the bathroom between 1 and 5 times a night. I never get an uninterrupted night's sleep. He can't make his own meals. He can't go to the bathroom by himself and is incontinent at times.
I also have no family close by (several thousand miles away). I've had no break in 4 years. What keeps me sane are my friends, Facebook (I thank heaven for it every day), reading, brief walks with my dog and the bits of time each day when hubby is "himself."
But it is a very lonely life. And now I have Stage 1 breast cancer. My kids will come in and care for me and hubby for 3 weeks while I have surgery and recuperate. That will be lovely. I should actually get some sleep for a change
Area Agency on Aging used to have a program of respite care and I thought I'd use it for hubby for a week or two. But it has been discontinued. And, honestly, if he were in a home of some sort, he would decline even further.
It's hard not to get discouraged. But we all do what we have to do. Keep strong!
06-20-2014 11:08 AM
06-17-2014 11:26 PM
Good evening, Grammarian,
I missed it: who said they were considering divorce?
You are hanging in there, that's for sure. Your husband is a lucky man.
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