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 looking for experienced PT dependable and caring Caregiver with right attitude. AM & PM shifts. care for an elderly mother 82yrs. 40usd per hr, send resume to nickyvscava@gmail.com for more info

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I did call them - they are having phone issues getting me to the person I guess? But I saw my results - I've seen most of them but did get that one new one I mentioned - thanks for the suggestion!

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You might want to call, A Place For Mom, which is a National referral organization, that might help you. Their phone # is 201-212-6439. You have nothing to lose.
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Jane thank you for the well thought out reply!  And happy new year to you Smiley Happy 

 

We are good on financial planning - that was handled several years ago [again] by a laywer I trust after seeing the mess their lawyer made of things [malpractice anyone? I'm a lawyer - I was horrified] so everything is easy on that note.

 

I did find a jewish one here that seems to be that 'ccrc' you describe - I will look up Kendall.  I'm at my wits end as she just injured herself again trying to do things she shouldn't - she keeps saying she wants this or that and I find a great option [first assisted living, then completely independent senior community] and she keeps changing her mind.

 

To some extent it may be resistance, to some extent giving more credit than we CAN to my father's paranoia, she IS clearing out extra belongings bit by bit - so I am proud of that effort! But she felt the assisted living was full of old people, and sadly the rules in the ones around me about having to be able to handle this or that, or be xyz mobile, will eventually cause them to move my father to the memory care unit or to a nursing home if they don't have one.  This is her objection to that.

 

There's a nice senior condo center half a mile from my house - I thought that would work - apparently now she's uncertain about that too.

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ca86261368 wrote:

Hello everyone,

 

My parents are too far from me [across two bridges and NYC traffic!] and are ready to come here if I can find the proper place.

 

I don't know if it exists but all I ever find are ads online - so seeking help in narrowing things down.

 

My mother is fairly capable but needs relief from the burdens of home maintenance.  My father has Lewy Body Dementia and is currently doing well with her care and supervision.

 

She does not want to be separated from him until absolutely necessary in HER eyes - so assisted living facilities, which take that choice away, are unacceptable.

 

How do I find a place that would allow truly independent living [such as regular senior housing] with no services, that also transition seamlessly to assisted living when needed?

 

ANy suggestions for Long Island NY - or even what questions to ask to narrow this down?


Good morning, and Happy New Year!  

 

I wouldn't write off Assisted Living altogether in that there are a variety of care options and she can live with him the whole time. Have you all thought about continuing care retirement communities, where they can move in at one level of care and then one or both can move to higher levels of care?  Personally, i prefer the non profit ones, like Kendall, which seems to be more ethically run for the good of both the residents and the workers. The ones that used to be religiously supported also seem better run, more ethical.

 

I guess you all have done the due diligence of financial planning? An eldercare attorney and/or financial planner can help look forward into both his and her futures so that everyone gets the most bang for the buck.

 

How about calling "A Place for Mom"?   They are truly a terrific outfit, i used to call them when i worked as a geriatric care manager, and they'd take all the financial info, preferences, location options, and then call the various places to set up tours. It's a free service, and they do take money from the facilities to operate, but i found the counselors to be very forthright and helpful. Someone is Jewish? Then this place might be better than that place. Like more of a walkable urban setting? How about this building or that community.

 

What are you thinking? What makes sense as the next right step? Oh how lucky are your parents to have you in their corner!

 

Write more? is any of this helpful?

Jane

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Hello everyone,

 

My parents are too far from me [across two bridges and NYC traffic!] and are ready to come here if I can find the proper place.

 

I don't know if it exists but all I ever find are ads online - so seeking help in narrowing things down.

 

My mother is fairly capable but needs relief from the burdens of home maintenance.  My father has Lewy Body Dementia and is currently doing well with her care and supervision.

 

She does not want to be separated from him until absolutely necessary in HER eyes - so assisted living facilities, which take that choice away, are unacceptable.

 

How do I find a place that would allow truly independent living [such as regular senior housing] with no services, that also transition seamlessly to assisted living when needed?

 

ANy suggestions for Long Island NY - or even what questions to ask to narrow this down?

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